CRUSH STRESS TODAY TO HAVE THE COMFORT OF HAPPINESS TOMORROW

 

HOW TO SLAY STRESS AND INVITE JOY INTO YOUR LIFE
Thick rope stretched - breaking up - like a stressed mom at breaking point

Ever had a tension headache caused by stress?

You know the kind where the pain karate chops you between the eyes?

Maybe it’s caused by a shameful secret – you want to run away

 mom stressed by too many chores

 from home  …… it’s the only way to regain your sanity.

You’re a stay at home mom and you want to escape the kids’ constant whining. The stressful, lonely cycle of kiddie talk, cleaning, laundry, cooking.

But, you can’t. So you fantasize.

Of one hour to do nothing. Of one afternoon without tiny, needy hands clutching at you. Of one night of coma-like sleep.

stressed out girl - in a panic

But what if I told you that you can turn your fantasy into reality.

That you can cancel the pressure and rewire your life for happiness.

You can free yourself from stress and get your mommy mojo back.

This post tackles:

  1.    1.   What stress is
  2.    2.   How the body reacts to stress
  3.    3.   Signs of stress
  4.    4.   Early Morning self-care
  5.    5.   How sleep helps with stress
  6.    6.   Exercise to destress

Ready? Let’s get to it then.

WHAT IS STRESS

This is what I think stress is for a stay at home mom.

Imagine carrying a load that is 3 times your body weight. It has been torturous to bear. You’ve stumbled beneath its weight and borne it for a long time.

But you’ve now reached a state of near collapse and you need this heavy, painful burden to be lifted. Or else ….. you will self-destruct.

You simply can’t take any more.

Is this what you’re feeling?

WHAT STRESS DOES TO YOUR BODY
This extract from an infographic on stress illustrates the effect of stress on the body in a dangerous situation.

See, your body enters into a fight or flee mode to help you to protect yourself – you fight the threat or you flee it.

Imagine the difficulty of dealing with regular demands if your mind and body are walking a constant tightrope.

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WHAT ARE THE SYMPTOMS OF STRESS

 

WORD CLOUD - SYMPTOMS OF STRESS

Troubling picture, isn’t it?

Okay.

Now, let’s plot a route to kick the stressors out the door for good. I’ll walk you through the process in this post.

WHAT ARE YOUR STRESS TRIGGERS

To free yourself from the tentacles of stress, you need to first identify your triggers.

  • •  Pick out 3 times in the day when you feel stressed
      What activity is the cause of your tension?
  • •  Describe your feelings.    

For example, you may find mornings a nightmare- kids not up on time, fuss about breakfast, delay with dressing and sorting things out for school. You lose your cool every morning. 

–  Do you feel worried that they will be late for school?
–  Are you overcome by a raging anger every morning?
–  Is your heading pounding with the effort of keeping it together? 

What you are doing here is a kind of stocktaking of all your stressors. Once, you’ve got a list of the stuff that winds you up, you can get to work to deal with them.

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Here are a few surprising simple things to do to start the process to cut stress from your life.

CRUSH STRESS BY NURTURING YOUR SOUL

For starters, take time to care for your bruised spirit.

I know what you’re thinking. There are only 24 hours in the day. So where will you find the time? Right?

Actually, you have to make the time. Get up an hour earlier to carve out some time for yourself.

Leo Babauta, in a post on 10 Benefits of rising Early and how to do it wrote:

The early morning hours are so peaceful, so quiet. It’s my favorite time of day. I truly enjoy that time of peace, that time to myself, when I can think, when I can read, when I can breathe.

You’re thinking you’ll be too tired to get up earlier.

Here’s the thing, if you want to be a happy mommy, you have to take care of yourself first.

What to do:     

Start a simple me – time ritual to charge yourself for the day.

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  •     •  Deep breathing 
  •     •  Light stretching – simple yoga
  •     •  A cup of coffee in the garden
  •     •  Read a motivational/spiritual book
  •     •  Listen to your favorite hymn/piece of music

A simple self - care routine allows you to meet any challenge head-on. Click To Tweet

Cameron Diaz wrote on the benefits of prioritizing yourself in The Body Book:

You will laugh with your kids more often than you snap at them…… You will smile more. Enjoy your days more. Even the “ must do’s ” of life seem less daunting.

Seems to me, this simple step will smooth the way to a stress – free day. So why not try it?

NOURISH YOUR BODY TO BE STRESS-FREE

Right, now you have to get your body into gear so you can move from exhausted to energized.

Focus on just 3 things:
   •  Sleep
   •  Diet
   •  Exercise

GET ENOUGH SLEEP   

Ever punished your kids for tying their shoelaces wrong or messing the table with cookie crumbs?

Found yourself flooded with guilt after that? Because you know the real reason – drop down dead exhaustion from sleeplessness and endless chores.

The National Sleep Foundation states that sleep is vital to your mental health and physical well – being.

Not getting good sleep regularly causes fatigue, irritability, and moodiness. This strains your relationship with loved ones when your take your fatigue – fuelled anger out on them.

Studies carried out by The National Heart, Lung and Blood Institute show that a lack of sleep changes activity in parts of the brain that are used in problem-solving.

This explains why you find yourself unable to cope with the demands of taking care of the kids, cooking, and housework. The overload stresses you out which takes its toll on your mental and physical health.

SET UP A HEALTHY SLEEP ROUTINE  
STRESS BUSTING FOOD
  • What you eat is especially important to fight stress. Some foods have superman powers to help you in your battle with stress.
  • Jen of cosyfruits.com explains the mood enhancing properties of oatmeal, dark chocolate and cashews here.
  • Watch this video by Barbara Mendez, a nutritionist, who expands on foods that have a calming effect on the mind and body.

So cut the junk and stock up on the good stuff and say bye bye to stress.

To help you get your destress diet going, see below a 6 – day meal created by Eva of evainterrupted.com.

6 day meal plan of stress fighting ingredients

 

Now that you know all about self – care, sleep, and diet let’s move into getting your body into great shape.

EXERCISE TO REDUCE STRESS

I know …. you don’t have the time or energy to think never mind exercise.

A good exercise program is a must to perk and change your mindset.

The Mayo Clinic states that exercise helps to curb stress and anxiety.

HOW EXERCISE FIGHTS STRESS

Have you ever found yourself in a good mood after walking the dogs?

Funny, isn’t it? When you exercise regularly, you function better.

Regular activity gives you more energy which boosts your confidence. The result is a greater sense of self-worth.

Makes you feel you can meet any challenge head-on.

TYPES OF EXERCISE TO RELIEVE STRESS
WALKING

Start by taking a walk. This is an immediate mood booster. Chatting with a neighbor or taking in the splendor of roses in the park shifts the focus away from yourself and your issues.

Build exercise into your daily routine. Do simple things at first to make it a routine. For example,  walking the dogs daily.

GARDENING

This is another good habit to grow. Weeding, turning over the soil, planting and watering plants give you a sense of purpose and joy.

Just the sight of a flowering pot of begonias you nurtured is enough to cancel all your cares.

YOGA

If you think yoga is only for ashram types, you’re dead wrong.

Anna Coventry, a fellow stressee, discusses the numerous advantages of yoga in 6 Ways Yoga Can Help You Reduce Stress | DOYOUYOGA.

  •    •  Removes tension in the body.
  •    •  Calms both mind and body
  •    •  Stills the stressed mind
  •    •  Teaches good breathing
       •  Balances moods

Here’s an example of 4 yoga poses taken from an infographic. They are just the thing you need when you’re feeling overwhelmed.

pic of 4 yoga poses to relieve stress

You may be, though, so fueled by anger and frustration that you need more vigorous activities.

OTHER EXERCISES 

Good ideas are Kickboxing, boxing, running, basketball – anything that gets the heart rate up and causes you to break into a sweat.

Group exercises like cycling, aerobics, and rowing are also great. The added bonus is the company of like-minded people working to improve their fitness levels.

The result for you is meeting new people, finding a new interest and working on a calm mindset.

Any form of physical activity produces endorphins, the feel-good hormone, in the body. So after a workout, you feel like you’re riding the crest of a wave and that nothing is impossible.

A regular fitness routine transforms your life filling it with positivity and happiness.

 

YOUR TURN

So, moms,  there’s no need to stay in zombie fantasy mode.

No need to yearn for me and free time.

You can make your life zoom from dull and dreary to brisk and bouncy in no time at all.

Stress reducing steps to take:

   1.  Prioritize yourself.
   2.  Start a me – time morning ritual.
   3.  Ensure that you get good quality sleep.
   4.  Improve your diet with stress-relieving foods.
   5.  Get rid of stress with daily exercise.

Crush stress| Learn how to reduce stress by honing in on 3 things. First start a morning morning routine of  stress relief activities such as yoga, meditation, and journalling. Then include in your diet only foods that boost positivity. Lastly, exercise regularly to get rid of stress.Do you have any tips to share to help stay at home moms avoid burn out?

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More about Poovanesh Pather

A former English teacher turned lifestyle blogger. Content creator for blogs and websites. Book lover, scrabble addict and crime show obsessor.

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Tanita
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Stress headaches are awful, being a mummy means you can definitely wear your self too thin. Some really great tips for her to combat stress. Really helpful xx

Jane
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All very good tips on slaying stress. Stress overload is terrible for mental health, bad for familial relationships. every one especially moms need to find or etch some time for self-care. I like to practice some of these activities. I miss the quiet of early mornings, my very best time of the day. I love to escape with a book for a while. One thing I could add is finding time to hang out in the actual presence of other moms. When I visit with a friend we laugh for a while and the stress dissipates. I feel renewed and… Read more »

Olayinka
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Olayinka

These are great tips!! I plan to use several suggestions you gave to help me manage my stress better.

Sarah
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Deep breathing and exercise are big for me! I definitely have to get up and move when I feel like I’m stressed.

Cassie
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Stress or tension headaches are the worst! I definitely need to sit down and figure out what my stress triggers are.

Sharvina
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Sharvina

Thank you! I’m working on my morning and night daily routines and will make use of your tips.

Marijke
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Great article Poovanesh. It is so important to reduce stress as it does so much harm to our bodies. Fortunately there are heaps of good tips out there such as your articles. I love the thing that Cameron Diaz said about snapping at your kids. I have felt guilty about that on occasions…

Mariànne
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Mariànne

I needed this, I have been so stressed lately with all that’s going on in my life. Definately some tips taken on board.

Cassie
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This is a great list of tips – I’ve never thought of looking for my stress triggers in order to cut it back in my life!

Jen @ Jenron Designs
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I also believe getting outside and getting sunlight is important. Too many people are stuck inside with work I get recharged by just a little bit of sunshine, soaking in some vitamin D helps too.

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