9 WINNING WAYS TO HANDLE DISTRESSING DIFFICULTIES IN LIFE
Facing up to difficulties in life is like a novice attempting to summit Mount Everest.
Are you dealing with a Mount Everest in your life? Feels like you’re being slow tortured, doesn’t it? You think it’s impossible to cope with its demands, don’t you?
Maybe you just got retrenched, your teenage daughter is pregnant, your best friend is dating your ex….. on and on it seems to go in a never-ending cycle.
But, let’s take a minute to think about how to dealing with overcoming obstacles.
So while we may rant and rail against the personal difficulties in life we all face, they serve a vital purpose.
Difficulties in life force you to stop and to:
- * Reassess your life, your choices and your priorities
* Introspect about the nature of the personal crisis
At the end of it all, you grow to an understanding that life is full of challenges
- and that you need to embrace them rather than fight against them
After all, the consequence of facing problems in real life is becoming a stronger and better person.
Before we get fully into this post, sit back relax and check out this YouTube video which gives a different view of facing challenges in life:
EXAMPLES OF TRAUMATIC DIFFICULTIES IN LIFE
These are life-changing traumatic events that mold and shape you into a better human being.
* Death of a loved one
* End of a relationship
* Diagnosis of an illness
* Substance abuse
* Modern lifestyle addictions
* Loss of a job and unemployment
* Family issues
So just how do you get up again when the difficulties in life have floored you with a power-packed punch?
9 SMART TIPS TO TACKLE PERSONAL CHALLENGES
1. SEEK COMFORT IN NATURE
Break the worry and stress cycle by seeking refuge outdoors. Take a walk along the beach or visit a local park.
Just take the time to sit quietly and digest the crisis you find yourself in. The stillness and quietness in nature calm the mind so you can better cope with the personal challenges you’re facing.
What do Katy Perry, Madonna, and Hugh Jackman have in common?
They all meditate.
Kendra Cherry states in What You Should Know About Meditation:
Meditation can be defined as a set of techniques that are intended to encourage a heightened state of awareness and focused attention.
Why should you meditate when your whole world has been wrecked?
Simple – to calm your mind and body
This enables you to better deal with the issues you are facing in life.
You see the problem in the context of everything else rather than allowing it to govern all else.
3. WRITE IT DOWN IN YOUR JOURNAL
Journaling is a powerful self-care tool which you would be wise to embrace.
It is a soothing activity that allows you to pour your heart out.
Sometimes, like in the case of the death of a loved one, you may be too distraught to share with your closest family or friends
According to Elizabeth Scott in The Benefits of Journaling for Stress Management journaling allows you to:
clarify …. thoughts and feelings, thereby gaining valuable self-knowledge.
It’s also a good problem-solving tool; oftentimes, one can hash out a problem and come up with solutions more easily on paper.
At first, it is likely and understandable that you will just brain dump all your feelings about your crisis.
But, the more you journal, the more the desire to solve the problem grows.
When you get to this point, you need to be more strategic with your journaling:
1. Describe the problem.
2. List the immediate consequences of the problem.
3. Note your feelings about the problem.
If, for instance, the problem is the loss of job, your notes may be:
1. Immediate loss of your job due to the company closing.
2. Not enough money to pay your bills
3. Frustration, hurt, anger – you loved your job, you were good at it, you
were due to be promoted.
So, in essence, journaling helps you to become a better person.
TAKE TIME TO COME TO A SOLUTION
Problem-solving is a process. Take the time to research the options open to you.
Rushing to a solution may result in unsound decisions.
To go back to the earlier example, you may choose to accept a position where the monthly paycheck is decent but the long-term benefits are not good.
The best course would be to take a short-term position to meet your bills but which allows you to look for a better job that offers you great benefits.
It is vital to accept that difficulties in life cannot be avoided.
Acceptance results in understanding and often brings new opportunities.
Let me show you what I mean.
I have lived with an autoimmune illness for 20 years.
But in 2017, I was forced to quit my job as a high school English teacher due to a medical crisis.
I simply had to accept this or risk massive life-threatening health complications.
But, acceptance opened me up to the idea of earning a living online while working from home.
And so my blog was born.
To use the job loss example again, perhaps you did not have an emergency fund equivalent to 3 months salary as the financial experts advise.
You now make positive changes like drawing up a budget and making your emergency fund a priority.
You may even resolve to take on some part-time work just to build up this fund.
When you’re facing difficulties in life, it’s important to take care of your mental health.
This allows you to free your mind from your hardship for a while. Your focus and attention are needed to create something beautiful from scratch.
The process is a soothing activity and shifts your mind from churning over the problems of your life.
The surprising benefit is often a clear plan to deal with your predicament constructively.
LISTEN TO MUSIC
Embrace the healing power of music.
In How Does Music Heal, Dr. Candace Pert says:
Beautiful music can inspire, calm, and uplift us as it connects us to the innermost nature of our being. Surrendering to music may be the ultimate meditation
Listen to music to soothe you as you come to terms with your personal challenge.
Check out this video of FIGHT SONG by Rachel Platten
A good idea is to compile your own playlist to boost your mood when you’re in the throes of adversity.
The last thing you want to do in the midst of a life-changing crisis is volunteering.
But, this is a powerful tool to help you see your difficulty in the context of those experienced by others
Helping at a soup kitchen or reading to the elderly at a local home for the aged impacts the lives of the less fortunate.
It forces you to be grateful for all that you have. Being homeless, for example, is dire compared to the end of a relationship due to deceit.
Volunteering allows you to get away from your personal challenges for a while.
When you revisit it, you may find that volunteering has given you a different perspective. A better and more constructive solution may result.
SEEK HELP AND SUPPORT
Find help if you feel the problem is too overwhelming:
* Confide in a trusted friend or family member
* Try counseling
* Join a support group
* Start your own support group
* Turn to family and friends
Let’s recap. When you are facing your Mount Everest, try these 9 tips to help you come to terms with it:
1. Seek comfort in nature
3. Journal about the challenge
4. Take time to think deeply about the solution
5. Practice Acceptance
6. Find solace in your own playlist
8. Find a creative outlet
9. Get help
This quotation sums up why we all experience Mount Everests in our lives.
Difficulties strengthen the mind, as labor does the body.
Lucius Annaeus Seneca
Do you have any tips about tackling difficulties in life?
Share your story in the comments below.