DIFFICULTIES IN LIFE – HOW AND WHY TO EMBRACE THEM


9 WINNING WAYS TO HANDLE DISTRESSING DIFFICULTIES IN LIFE

Facing difficulties in life is like a novice climbing Mount Everest.
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Facing up to difficulties in life is like a novice attempting to summit Mount Everest.

But life is full of challenges and we have to summon the courage to face them. Click To Tweet

Are you confronting a Mount Everest in your life? Feels like you’re being slow tortured, doesn’t it?

Maybe you just got retrenched, your teenage daughter is pregnant, your best friend is dating your ex….. on and on it seems to go in a never-ending cycle.

But, let’s take a minute to think about dealing with personal problems in real life.

Can you enjoy summer if you’ve never experienced winter? How can you celebrate good times if you have not experienced bad times? Click To Tweet

So while we may rant and rail against the personal difficulties in life we all face, they serve a vital purpose.

Facing your Mount Everest enables:
* Introspection
* Acceptance
* Gratitude

At the end of it all, you grow to an understanding that life is full of challenges.

The best course of action is to embrace it rather than fight it.

After all, the consequence of facing problems in real life is becoming a stronger and better person.

Before we get fully into this post, sit back relax and check out this YouTube video which gives a different view of facing challenges in life:

 

EXAMPLES OF TRAUMATIC DIFFICULTIES IN LIFE

These are 
life-changing traumatic events that mold and shape you into a better human being.

* Death of a loved one
* End of a relationship
* Diagnosis of an illness
* Substance abuse
* Modern lifestyle addictions
* Loss of a job and unemployment
* Family issues

RELATED: THE ULTIMATE GUIDE TO LIFE WITH A CHRONIC ILLNESS

So how do you get up again when the difficulties in life have floored you with a power-packed punch?

9 SMART TIPS TO TACKLE PERSONAL CHALLENGES 

1. SEEK COMFORT IN NATURE

Find refuge in natureBreak the worry and stress cycle by seeking refuge outdoors. Take a walk along the beach or visit a local park.

Allow the eternal beauty of nature calm and soothe you in your distress. Click To Tweet

Just take the time to sit quietly and digest the crisis you find yourself in.

The aim is to calm the mind so you can better cope with the challenges you’re facing.

2.  MEDITATE

What do Katy Perry, Madonna, and Hugh Jackman have in common?

They all meditate.

Kendra Cherry states in What You Should Know About Meditation:

Meditation can be defined as a set of techniques that are intended to encourage a heightened state of awareness and focused attention.

Why should you meditate when your whole world has been wrecked?

Simple –  to calm your mind and body

This enables you to better deal with the issues you are facing in life.

You see the problem in the context of everything else rather than allowing it to govern all else.

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3.  WRITE IT DOWN IN YOUR JOURNAL

keep a journal to help you come to terms with life's challenges.Journaling is a powerful self-care tool which you would be wise to embrace.

It is a soothing activity that allows you to pour your heart out.

Sometimes, like in the case of the death of a loved one, you may be too distraught to share with your closest family or friends

According to Elizabeth Scott in The Benefits of Journaling for Stress Management journaling allows you to:

clarify …. thoughts and feelings, thereby gaining valuable self-knowledge.

It’s also a good problem-solving tool; oftentimes, one can hash out a problem and come up with solutions more easily on paper.

At first, it is likely and understandable that you will just brain dump all your feelings about your crisis.

But, the more you journal, the more the desire to solve the problem grows.

When you get to this point, you need to be more strategic with your journaling:

1. Describe the problem.
2. List the immediate consequences of the problem.
3. Note your feelings about the problem.

If, for instance, the problem is the loss of job, your notes may be:

1. Immediate loss of your job due to the company closing.
2. Not enough money to pay your bills
3. Frustration, hurt, anger – you loved your job, you were good at it, you
were due to be promoted.

So, in essence, journaling helps you to become a better person.

TAKE TIME TO COME TO A SOLUTION

Problem-solving is a process. Take the time to research the options open to you.

Rushing to a solution may result in unsound decisions.

To go back to the earlier example, you may choose to accept a position where the monthly paycheck is decent but the long-term benefits are not good.

The best course would be to take a short-term position to meet your bills but which allows you to look for a better job that offers you great benefits.


ACCEPTANCE

 

Difficulties in life are life changing. They shape you into a better human being.


It is vital to accept that difficulties in life cannot be avoided.

Acceptance results in understanding and often brings new opportunities.

Let me show you what I mean.

I have lived with an autoimmune illness for 20 years.

But in 2017, I was forced to quit my job as a high school English teacher due to a medical crisis.

I simply had to accept this or risk massive life-threatening health complications.

But, acceptance opened me up to the idea of earning a living online while working from home.

And so my blog was born.

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To use the job loss example again, perhaps you did not have an emergency fund equivalent to 3 months salary as the financial experts advise.

You now make positive changes like drawing up a budget and making your emergency fund a priority.

You may even resolve to take on some part-time work just to build up this fund.

GET CREATIVE

When you’re facing difficulties in life, it’s important to take care of your mental health.

Take a creative class like photography, pottery or painting to release the stress of dealing with your crisis. Click To Tweet

This allows you to free your mind from your hardship for a while. Your focus and attention are needed to create something beautiful from scratch.

The process is a soothing activity and shifts your mind from churning over the problems of your life.

The surprising benefit is often a clear plan to deal with your predicament constructively.

LISTEN TO MUSIC

Embrace the healing power of music.

In How Does Music Heal, Dr. Candace Pert says:

Beautiful music can inspire, calm, and uplift us as it connects us to the innermost nature of our being. Surrendering to music may be the ultimate meditation

Listen to music to soothe you as you come to terms with your personal challenge.

Check out this video of FIGHT SONG by Rachel Platten

 


A good idea is to compile your own playlist to boost your mood when you’re in the throes of adversity.

VOLUNTEER

The last thing you want to do in the midst of a life-changing crisis is volunteering.

But, this is a powerful tool to help you see your difficulty in the context of those experienced by others

Helping at a soup kitchen or reading to the elderly at a local home for the aged impacts the lives of the less fortunate.

It forces you to be grateful for all that you have. Being homeless, for example, is dire compared to the end of a relationship due to deceit.

Volunteering allows you to get away from your personal challenges for a while.

When you revisit it, you may find that volunteering has given you a different perspective. A better and more constructive solution may result.

RELATED: WHY FAMILY VOLUNTEERING IS ESSENTIAL TODAY

SEEK HELP AND SUPPORT

Find help if you feel the problem is too overwhelming:

* Confide in a trusted friend or family member
* Try counseling
* Join a support group
* Start your own support group
* Turn to family and friends

Dealing with difficulties in life is challenging. But it strengthens your character and makes your more compassionate.YOUR TURN
Let’s recap. When you are facing your Mount Everest, try these 9 tips to help you come to terms with it:

1. Seek comfort in nature
2. Meditate
3. Journal about the challenge
4. Take time to think deeply about the solution
5. Practice Acceptance
6. Find solace in your own playlist
7. Volunteer
8. Find a creative outlet
9. Get help

This quotation sums up why we all experience Mount Everests in our lives.

Difficulties strengthen the mind, as labor does the body.
Lucius Annaeus Seneca

Do you have any tips about tackling difficulties in life?

Share your story in the comments below.

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More about Poovanesh Pather

A former English teacher turned lifestyle blogger. Content creator for blogs and websites. Book lover, scrabble addict and crime show obsessor.

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Marijke
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I really like the acceptance part in your post because that saves so much energy. If you can accept what happens to you and don’t fight it, or resent or whatever, all your energy can go into making the situation better. It is the way I like to live my life. I always say’ what can I do to make this better. Great post, thanks for sharing!

Jocelyn
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I really needed this right now. I am going to try to meditate tonight and maybe get out into nature if the rain stops! Thanks for this

Roseline
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This is an amazing and helpful post. The strategies are particularly practical. Thanks so much for sharing your thoughts and helping others

Jo Anna
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I love your tip about being outdoors with nature. When I suffered from extreme anxiety a while ago, I needed to go for nature walks at least once a day to relieve my stress. Volunteering helps us to think outside of ourselves-another great point. Thanks so much.

Sarah
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Such great tips. I use music when I’m feeling really out of sorts or when life gets difficult. There is always just the right song for my mood at that time.

Brittany
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Acceptance is a huge one! That’s really the first step into recovering from any traumatic event.

Jeana
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I totally needed this, life has definitely been throwing a few curve balls at me in the past few months. I need to reset to avoid this cycle again!

Olayinka
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These tips are so helpful. I appreciate you taking the time to share your words of wisdom!

Marijke Doldersum
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Interesting post. I kind of need to read this type of advice at the moment. Thanks for sharing 😍

Lucy
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This is such a helpful post with lots of great ideas to get through those difficult times. One to share!

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