For Stay at Home Moms
Can I tell you your deep dark secret?
You want to run away from the stress of your home.
Away from the kids’ constant whining and whinging.
You want to escape the stressful, lonely cycle of kiddie talk, cleaning, laundry, cooking.
But, you can’t.
So you fantasize.
Of one hour to do nothing. Of one afternoon without tiny, needy hands clutching at you.
Of one night of coma-like sleep.
But what if I told you that you can turn your fantasy into reality. That you can cancel stress and rewire your life for happiness.
This post shows you how to free yourself of stress and get your mommy mojo back.
Here are some guaranteed destress tips.
Use them to change your mom status from blah to banging.
Ready ? Let’s get to it then.
RELEASE STRESS BY NURTURING YOUR SOUL
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The first thing to do is to invest time to nourish your bruised spirit
Then only will you emerge revitalized and recharged.
So you’re wondering what the cost of this investment is?
Get up an hour earlier. Dedicate this time to yourself.
Leo Babauta, in a post on 10 Benefits of rising Early and how to do it wrote:
The early morning hours are so peaceful, so quiet. It’s my favorite time of day. I truly enjoy that time of peace, that time to myself, when I can think, when I can read, when I can breathe.
- Start a simple me – time ritual to charge yourself for the day ahead.
- Deep breathing to center yourself
- Light stretching
- A cup of coffee in the garden
- Read a spiritual/motivational book
- Listen to your favorite hymn/piece of music
Cameron Diaz wrote on prioritizing yourself in The Body Book:
You will laugh with your kids more often than you snap at them…… You will smile more. Enjoy your days more. Even the “ must do’s ” of life seem less daunting.
Seems to me, this simple step will smooth the way to a stress – free day. Why not try it?
NOURISH YOUR BODY TO BE STRESS-FREE
Right, now you have to get your body into gear so you move from exhausted to energized.
Pay attention to three aspects:
The National Sleep Foundation states that sleep is vital to your mental health and physical
well – being.
Sleep deprivation causes fatigue, irritability, and moodiness. This strains relationships with loved ones.
For example, you punish your kids for silly things like not tying shoelaces or coloring out of the lines.
Studies carried out by The National Heart, Lung and Blood Institute show that a lack of sleep changes activity in parts of the brain that are used in problem-solving.
So, therefore, you find yourself unable to cope with all the multiple demands of taking care of the kids, cooking, and housework. The overload stresses you out which takes its toll on your mental and physical health.
So take steps to set up a healthy sleep routine.
Research is also clear that a daily increase in fresh fruit and veggies is a sure – fire way to good health
PHOTO CREDIT: PIXABAYA balanced diet gives your body the fuel it needs to cope leaving you confident in your ability to take on any challenge. Click To Tweet
So cut the junk and stock up on the good stuff.
A good exercise program is also needed to perk you up.
The Mayo Clinic states that exercise produces endorphins, the feel-good hormone.
So, a regular fitness routine transforms your life filling it with positivity and happiness.
LOSE THE STRESS BY MASTERING YOUR CHORES
Do you feel dreary, monotonous household duties go on and on, day after day after day?
Simone de Beauvoir had said about housework:
Few tasks are more like torture ….. than housework, with its endless repetition: the clean becomes soiled, the soiled is made clean, over and over, day after day.
Win your kids over to your chore schedule :
- Have a family meeting
- List the daily and weekly tasks
- Allocate age – appropriate chores
With your household chores streamlined so that all family members pitch in to help, you are in for a stress- free life.
BUILD YOUR TRIBE AND LET HAPPINESS INTO YOUR LIFE
Do you recall the active social life you had BC
Do you yearn for those good old carefree days?
As much as you love your kids, you need what only friends can give you.
Psychologist John Cacioppo of the University of Chicago writes:
We are built for social contact. There are serious
life-threatening consequences when we don’t get enough.
We can’t stay on track mentally or physically. Social skills are crucial for your health.
If your old friends have vanished now that you are a stay at home mom, you need to make new ones.
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I know you’re out of touch. That you’re so used to baby talk, you’ve forgotten the art of small talk.
No worries. I’ve got your back.
IDEAS TO KICK-START NEW FRIENDSHIPS
JOIN A MOM SUPPORT GROUP
No judgment as you share, get and give advice and help with the gazillion problems that keep
you up at night.
START A PLAYGROUP WITH BENEFITS
Keep the number small (about 5 or 6). Two moms on duty and one gets time off to just do nothing. The kids get to play and you start building your new BFF network.
TAKE A CLASS
Hire a babysitter once a week. Use that time to take a class -pottery, yoga, cooking – invest
the time in a learning a new skill and meet new people at the same time.
LAUNCH A BREAKFAST/COFFEE DATE
Escape the tedium of chores. Meet your new friends for breakfast or coffee.Plan fun
activities for the next week. The laughter and camaraderie of these meetings give you the boost you need for the week ahead.
Invest in your personal development with online study.
Discover your passion, grow confidence and develop new skills.
Build a group of study buddies.
You could be laying the foundation for re-entry into the workforce or your own business.
Sounds good so far, doesn’t it?
BOOST YOUR HAPPINESS BY EMBRACING NATURE
A wonderful way to bond with your children and stop the constant whining is to take them outdoors.
PHOTO CREDIT: PIXABAYBeing out in the sun and taking in fresh air is a direct shot of happiness. Click To Tweet
Encourage your kids to enjoy being in nature.
Start a daily walk to a local park.
Play tag, jump rope, run races, climb trees and play in the sand.
These are all aerobic activities. They help to build strong bones, agility and muscle strength.
The brain develops at a much faster rate than for those who play indoors …. Not only do they become better learners, and do well in school, but they are more fun to be around (i.e. they make more friends)–everyone wants to play with the kid with the active imagination! Consequently, children will be much happier because, hey, they’re smart and they have a lot of friends.Allow Mother nature to inject you with a zest for life again. Click To Tweet
So destress by spending time outside while your kids
let off steam playing together.
So there’s no need to stay in zombie fantasy mode.
No need to yearn for me and free time.
You can make your life zoom from dull and dreary to brisk and bouncy in no time at all.
Stress reducing steps to take:
- Prioritize yourself – me – time, sleep, diet, exercise
- Expand your social circle – so you have support when things get tough
- Master your household tasks to avoid chore overwhelm
- Embrace life outdoors to up the happiness factor
- Challenge yourself with study
The payoff for you – a zest for life again and no stress.
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